When we lose someone we love, there are emotions and feelings that we often don’t expect as we grieve. Whether our loved one was ill for some time before they crossed over, or their passing was sudden, there are stages of grief that we go through. The grieving process can take a day, or it can last for years. Everyone experiences loss and grief in their own way.
Even as someone who communicates with Spirit, I am not immune to the grieving process and have experienced loss and pain that literally brought me to my knees. My grief was intense, unpredictable and eventually brought me closer to my loved ones in the afterlife.
Working with people who are grieving, I teach them how they can move through their loss in healthy ways so they can find happiness and joy in their lives again. Helping them to understand that their loved ones are still with them, communicating with them from the other side and even sending them love. Our crossed over loved ones become our greatest fans, experiencing the events in our lives along side us. From the birth of a child, to a wedding or even a new job, Spirit is cheering us on.
The 5 Stages of Grief
When you first hear that a loved one has crossed over, it can be difficult to believe it's even real. You want to just shake your head and say, 'no way.' You may even feel numb or disconnected and may initially not feel any pain. The shock and disbelief are suspending your pain, and this may last for days or even several weeks.
Once the initial shock starts to fade away, you may start to feel angry. Nothing makes sense and anger becomes another way to experience grief. You may be angry at God, yourself, the doctors, or even the loved one who has crossed over. You may not even know who or what you’re angry with and from this stage you may start to bargain in hopes of bringing your loved one back.
The loss may seem like a bad dream and you think of ways that you could have your loved one come back. You wish you could just wake up and have them with you. Maybe God would exchange your life and your loved one would come back. We can even start to feel guilty about something that we think we could have done or should have done for the person in a way to change the outcome. We may replay scenarios in our mind where we do something different, anything different, to not experience the loss.
This is when it first starts to hit you that your loss is real. The pain can be like a wave that you experience mentally, physically and emotionally. As you feel the pain from your loss, you also feel the change in your life from losing your loved one. Reflecting on memories and the special connection you shared while your loved one was alive as well as sadness as you realize that no new memories will be created. You may start to realize that future plans have changed without your loved one.
As we begin to accept the loss of our loved one, we start to move on with our lives. While you may not ever ‘get over’ the loss of your loved one, you start to feel okay about it and you’re able to think about them and even talk about them without feeling the despair or intense pain. You may feel a little sad thinking of them from time to time, but you are able to remember and experience the fond memories and happy feelings. You may even begin to notice signs from your crossed over loved one to let you know they are with you, just in a different way.
The stages of grief are different for everyone. You may only spend a few days in disbelief and your sibling may spend weeks there. You may never go through a bargaining stage while your best friend spends a lot of time with it. You may feel depressed for weeks or even months while your partner moves onto acceptance. There's no right or wrong way to grieve, and there's no timetable for an acceptable length of time to grieve. It’s important to honour the process, your process, and recognize if you may need extra support or help with your grief. If you feel like the waves of grief become too much, do reach out and find someone or a group to help you as you heal.
Shauna Chandler is a Spiritual Medium, Teacher and Guide, an avid women’s empowerment advocate, and a loyal coffee and chocolate lover. Her passion is sharing insights and inspiration, assisting clients with clearing anything holding them back, creating room for magical possibilities to take root and grow. Shauna lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and daughter.
A client named Rose came to see me in hopes of connecting with her recently deceased grandmother. During her reading, her grandmother brought up a very private moment that no one could possibly know about. About a week before she came to see me, Rose was getting ready for some “sexy time” with her husband when her negligee brushed against a lit candle and caught on fire. She ran into the kitchen to splash water on her nightie and that was where her grandmother saw her.
When I brought this up, Rose screamed, covered her face and started laughing. She then got very serious and asked me, “Did my grandmother watch us shagging?” With a horrified looked on her face, I reassured her that grandma did not. In fact, grandma was adamant that she would not intrude in that way and left immediately.
“Oh, thank God! Can you imagine if they all sat around eating popcorn while we got busy?” said Rose.
We then laughed and laughed some more.
After Rose left, I began to wonder if the deceased do in fact respect our privacy? Are they with us when we shower? Do they watch us getting dressed? Are they hanging 10 at the nudist beaches? What exactly do they see? Are there universal privacy laws in place?
First, let me explain how it works after you leave the physical world. After a period of acclimation, getting used to not having a body, perhaps a reunion with loved ones already in the afterlife or maybe even a life review to see how your soul experienced life on Earth, you’re faced with different possibilities. You can choose to fully complete your last incarnation by reincarnating into a new life and having the slate cleared so to speak, or you can choose to stay in the afterlife, to watch over your loved ones, help guide them or just to watch your grandkids grow up. Think of it as hovering, you can still tune into what’s going on here on Earth, but it’s not your main focus. You can connect with your loved ones, you can mess with the family dog or flicker some lights, while your soul continues to shift and expand in the afterlife. It’s like having a bird’s eye view on your entire family. You can still spend time with them, shower them with love and give them signs that you are near.
In addition to our crossed over loved ones, we also have guides and angels watching over us. We are never really alone. Our guides and angels help us work through emotionally challenging times, guiding and supporting us. And, they haven’t been in a physical body, so sex doesn’t mean anything to them. Our guides and angels do not judge us, they help us navigate our lives, especially during difficult times. When I read for clients who are depressed, or even suicidal, they are surrounded by numerous angels. Angels and guides have no point of view when it comes to what we choose to do during our time here on Earth. They will remind us, or give us a nudge, if we get off track from our dreams and aspirations, so we can live a meaningful and joy filled life.
Now, if the idea of a crossed over loved one watching you in private – scarfing down ice cream when you’re on a diet, using your sleeve to wipe your nose (gross, Shauna!) yelling at the dog, your kids or your spouse, makes you a little uncomfortable, I invite you to look at that. First, your loved ones are not judging you. They remember everything about being in a physical body with good days and not so good days. Second, I invite you to approve of everything you do, how you do it, why you do it, and not worry so much about what other people, or spirits, may think about you or your choices. If you saw 2 elk mating in the wild, would you judge them or would you excuse yourself and go on about your day?
From my experience as a medium, the deceased really don’t care what we do in the privacy of our own home. If you’ll recall, they were human once too, and they know all about sex, with a partner, alone, with several partners and it’s really not a big deal to them. They only want us to live our best life. Now, if you like to vacuum in the nude and grandma wants to pop in to say hello, chances are she may see a little more than she bargained for and will most likely come back another time, most likely. 😉
Shauna Chandler is a Spiritual Medium, Teacher and Guide, a mind-body science enthusiast, an avid women’s empowerment advocate, and a loyal coffee and chocolate lover. Her passion is sharing insights and inspiration, assisting clients with clearing anything holding them back, creating room for magical possibilities to take root and grow. Shauna lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and daughter.
To begin, let’s understand how we got here. Your consciousness, your spirit, your soul, made a choice to incarnate into a human body to have a human experience here in this reality. Some agree and choose to take physical form to work on ancestral issues, karmic issues, personal growth, or even assist with the evolution of humanity.
Before incarnating, you chose your family of origin (yes, you chose them 😉) any key players in your life, soul lessons or major events for you to experience, any soul contracts with other souls you would meet on your path. Sort of a blueprint for your incarnation. I have met souls who are in what I refer to as a “resting” incarnation. They are here to enjoy life, as more of a support role for their family of origin or soul mates. I’m sure you’ve met people like this – nothing really gets them down and it doesn’t take much to make them happy. They are happy with being in physical form supporting those they love.
Into the Physical
Now, with a game plan, it’s time to leave the non-physical. There is a veil that is placed over your memory of who you are in totality (an eternal soul) so that you come into this incarnation as a blank slate, following the guidance of your soul and your team, fulfilling your mission if you will. This allows you to create a life based on your preferences and desires while filling in the blanks as you grow and connect with those around you.
So, you’re here in the physical, living and experiencing life, drinking lattes, making babies, learning soul lessons, making an impact in the world, crossing paths with souls you’re meant to, etc. You are living your life.
Sometimes, what can happen is we start to feel what I call “soul urges”. Those little whispers. We start to wonder if there’s more to life. We know we should feel grateful and love the life we have, yet, there is a longing for more. At this point, we start to become aware of our higher, divine self, the part of us that is not in the physical, the part of us that knows what our blueprint is, why we chose this life. It’s at this point that our higher self will guide us to the experiences we planned for our life. If, by chance, we are not in touch with our higher self just yet, our lives can seem a little topsy-turvy and we can find ourselves jumping from one thing to the next looking for more. Something to keep in mind is that we have free will, so you get to answer the soul urges or not. It’s all up to you.
Deciding to go Home
Now, what most people don’t understand is that we choose to leave the physical, we decide when to die. Yes, you read that right. You decide. It’s not random. On a soul level, you make the decision as to when you’re going to go home. Often, once you’ve fulfilled the blueprint you outlined for your life, you are ready to go home. For some, the list is complete, you came, you saw, you conquered and you’re ready to go home. For others, sometimes life can be too much, and you decide to end it early and go home. Most people go home when it’s time, when the time is right for them. There are what I have experienced, “exit points” we have planned throughout our lives and it is at these times when an opportunity to go home presents. With free will, we decide when we would like to go.
Making the Transition
One of the greatest fears people have is dying because they don’t know what’s going to happen or how it will feel to leave the physical. I’ve met several people who have died and then come back to life and they have all shared that it was the most beautiful experience. One gentleman said it was like he woke up in a different place with his crossed over loved ones were there and he could see himself lying in the hospital bed. For him, he chose to come back into his physical body to be with his family as there were grandbabies that were coming in, so he wanted to be with his family a little while longer.
When death takes place, you leave your physical body behind. A beautiful light appears along with angels, crossed over loved ones, a barista holding a latte. You get the picture. Someone from spirit will come to guide you to the “other side”. Now, if you choose to not go to the light, for whatever reason, you will become “earthbound” and from my perspective, this is not a place that would bring your soul great joy. So, look for the light when it’s time.
Life in Spirit
You’ve gone to the light, you are with your crossed over loved ones, latte in hand, you will adjust to life in the hereafter. For some souls, there is time required to adjust and accept that they are no longer in physical form. Someone who took their own life or who were on drugs when they died, may require a bit of time to adjust energetically and on all levels. From this point, there is a life review where you will have the opportunity to review your life and watch it unfold before you. You will have the opportunity to see the impact of your behaviour and decisions on those around us. Oftentimes abusers will have witnessed first hand the impact of their actions and will desperately want to make amends with their loved ones. It is a beautiful reminder to live consciously and with kind, loving intentions.
After your life review you’ll get to decide what you’d like to do next on a soul level. Some souls choose to incarnate again pretty quickly, while others take time to assess what they’ve accomplished on a soul level and what they would like to do next. Some become spirit guides to their loved ones, some like to mess with the family dog and play with the radio. From this place, there is so much we can do on a soul level. We can tour the universe or other dimensions or watch over this planet while our loved ones are still here. Some souls wait to incarnate to meet their family members when it’s their time to cross. Basically, there are things to do and experience and new plans to make. You’ll see when you get there. 😉
The BIG question
“WHEN DO I GET TO MEET GOD?”
After all that, you’re probably wondering when you get to meet the Big Guy, or Girl, the King Poobah, the Cat’s Meow, yes? What we often forget is that we are a projection of God, God is within you, God is you, you are God. Once we remember our Divine Spark, just look into your eyes next time you pass a mirror, we can save ourselves years of feeling lost and disconnected. Our true essence is interwoven with God energies and he/she drinks lattes just like us (sorry that was my reality popping in). The point is, we can experience Heaven on Earth while we are here and have a meet-and-greet when we leave the physical.
The Bottom Line
Death is going home. It’s something your soul yearns for and deep inside we know we are still connected to home while we are here in the physical. Now, until it’s your time to go, grab a latte, or glass of wine, and live your life to the fullest. Remember, that we each carry the essence of God inside us and can choose to fully and completely live each and every moment we are here.
Shauna Chandler is a Spiritual Medium, Teacher and Guide, a mind-body science enthusiast, an avid women’s empowerment advocate, and a loyal coffee and chocolate lover. Her passion is sharing insights and inspiration, assisting clients with clearing anything holding them back, creating room for magical possibilities to take root and grow. Shauna lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and daughter. Visit www.shaunachandler.com for more information.
What I know for sure is that spirit doesn’t want to scare you. They are looking for ways to get our attention. If you are someone who had intuitive gifts as a child, then you know that somewhere along the line you most likely told them to go away or stopped communicating all together.
I had a client who brought her daughter to see me. Mary Kate was 5 and she talked all day long about her “friends”, Thomas and Rebecca. They would visit at night and Mary Kate’s parents would wake up to hear her whispering and talking in her bedroom. And, when they went to check on her, they could see her having an animated conversation without anyone else in the room. I asked Mary Kate if her “friends” came to visit often, and she replied, “Oh, Yes. We have tea and play every night after Mommy and Daddy are sleeping.”
As Mary Kate got older, she stopped communicating with her “friends” and in her early 20s, she began to pick up on spirit once again.
We are most receptive at night which is why spirits visit then.
Typically, we are more relaxed during the evening hours. When we are asleep, all the daily momentum stops, and our to-do lists are at rest until morning. In the sleep state, we are open, receptive, and our minds aren’t getting in the way.
So much can occur during our sleep state. We may astral travel, vising distant lands or even our childhood home, or, we may hang out with our spirit guides, learning and exploring more of our soul’s journey while in this life. Our dreams can offer another way for spirit to communicate with us. We may wake up with just the answer that previously eluded us, or with a sense that all is well and that we are divinely guided and loved from the heavenly realms.
Reasons spirit may be visiting at night:
If Spirit visiting at night is bothering you, like it does for most of us, you can set boundaries and even business hours with spirit. You can tell them when you’re willing to connect, how they can connect with you, and who you’re willing to connect with.
You are in the driver’s seat with your energy and your home so don’t feel bad about setting boundaries and ground rules for spirit to engage with you. It’s like that person who stays long after the party is over. At some point you will let them know it's time to go home.
What are some ways to ensure a peaceful, spirit-free night?
If all else fails, reach out to a medium or energy worker who can help you with the energy in your home. Spirit will continue to try to get your attention so if you need a little support, make sure you reach out. Spirit will thank you and your home will be your sacred space for rest and rejuvenation.
Another way to think of spirit, is that they are just people without bodies. They cannot bring any harm to you or your family and they are not more powerful than you are. Spirit communication is a beautiful gift and capacity and, with your focused intention, you can develop your connection with the spirit world in a way that works best for you.
Shauna Chandler is a Spiritual Medium, Teacher and Guide, a mind-body science enthusiast, an avid women’s empowerment advocate, and a loyal coffee and chocolate lover. Her passion is sharing insights and inspiration, assisting clients with clearing anything holding them back, creating room for magical possibilities to take root and grow. Shauna lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and daughter. Visit www.shaunachandler.com for more information.
About a month ago I added a day to my gym workouts (I decided I’m wearing, and rocking, the bikini I’ve been shying away from that hangs in my closet). I started out strong, I was doing everything I needed do; enjoying my workouts, drinking my water and stretching. I woke up on my additional gym day and was so sore I could hardly get down the stairs. I put on my gym clothes and as I was making a snack, I started to think thoughts like - what will my trainer think? I’m not keeping up my end of the bargain and what if I can’t rock the bikini? Took me a few minutes to clear all the crazy coming up and then I asked my body if she wanted to have an extra gym day each week and it was NO. I laughed at myself and then asked my body how many days she wanted and setup my schedule to match.
I then called my trainer and he kept trying to guilt me into going, reminded me of my bikini plans, so I thanked him, and I instantly felt a weight released and instead of lifting at the gym, I went for a nice long walk, had an Epsom salt bath and did some stretching. The old me would have been at the gym no matter what, not wanting to upset anyone or impact their day, so as soon as I hung up the phone, I acknowledged choosing me and what works for me, and my body.
3 Steps to Choose You
1. Check in with you. Is this really your idea or plan? Often, we align with the people around us and end up agreeing to things we would rather not. We try to keep the peace or not rock the boat all the while feeling miserable that we didn’t speak up.
Take some time and think about these questions:
How would you like to live your life?
Would you like to be healthy and vital? Write it down.
Would you like to have more fun with your family and feel the love? Write it down.
Pick one thing and start to look at ways you can implement that into your life.
Ask: “What would it take to have more _____________ in my life?” Keep asking until you get an awareness or action steps.
2. Notice how you are telling the story. My guides remind me to be mindful of how I tell the story, because I’ll get to be right. I've proven them right on more than one occasion.
Be mindful of your thoughts and spoken words. It only takes repeating something 3 times for it to become part of your energy field.
About a year ago, I caught myself saying, “I’m so tired”. In one day I said it 9 times! No wonder I didn’t have the juice to get through my day, I was telling myself to be tired. I started to reframe what I was saying to, “I have more and more energy everyday.” And, after about 2 weeks, it completely shifted for me.
I invite you to start noticing the stories, words and thoughts you are choosing. Just a willingness to be aware of them, will start to show you any patterns or limitations so you can change them.
3. Be willing to be assertive and speak your truth. Growing up, I was always told to be a “good girl” and it wasn’t until years later that I realized I was being praised for not having a voice, not speaking up. I’ll admit, when I first started to speak my truth, it felt weird, really weird, but the more I practiced, the easier it got. And, now if I don’t speak my truth, I will feel my energy constrict and I do not dim my light for anyone.
Notice when you feel the urge to spit something out – this is your higher self giving you the nudge to speak up. Your words don’t have to be unkind, they just need to be voiced in a way that works for you.
I remember the first year I told my Mom that we weren’t going over for Christmas dinner, and instead were going skiing that day. The guilt and shame she sprinkled on me could have decorated a whole tree! But, I stood my ground and we had the best day ever at the ski hill and we spent time with my family in a way that worked for us. I was willing to disappoint and assert myself to make sure I was following my truth.
When we make the choice to live a life we love, it can make other people uncomfortable. They are used to you filling your role and are not sure about the new you and you offer them a space to choose them and this can make people really uncomfortable. No matter what, find what makes your heart sing and shine bright!
The first time I heard Katy Perry's song, Roar, I turned up the volume and went home to download the song immediately. Not only were the lyrics catchy, it soon became an anthem that gave permission to speak up, celebrate who we are, come out of the shadows, reminding us that we all have a choice in every aspect of our lives. Soon, everyone in my community from social media, clients, friends and family were all buzzing whenever the song came on and it seemed to be hitting the airwaves everywhere. One afternoon, while listening to the song in the car, I asked my daughter, who was 9 at the time, why she liked the song so much and her reply was, “It makes me feel strong, like I can do anything”.
What a powerful message for young women, women from broken homes, girls who felt not good enough, women who were battered and worn down. What if we could change the way women feel about themselves and their contributions to this world? What if we could uplift one another instead of competing? How would our world shift and change if all women believed they were strong and could do anything?
Does this sound familiar?
"I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sat quietly, agreed politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything"
HOW DISEMPOWERMENT SHOWS UP
• Feeling helpless and overlooked; assuming everyone around you knows better. Taking on someone else’s idea of how we should behave and interact with the world
• Keeping our insights to ourselves and not realizing that our contributions are just as, if not more, valuable than those around us
• Beating ourselves up: ideas, behaviours, parenting, personal appearance, failures and skillset - just to name a few
• Ignoring that little inner voice. We have our very own internal GPS system that, if we allow it, will guide us and support us through life
• Editing ourselves as a direct, often unintentional, way of emulating those around us
• Often learning to suppress our fun, even quirky aspects; only sharing them when we feel safe to do so as opposed to letting them be a part of our everyday experiences
Once we begin to accept our differences and embrace our uniqueness, we will attract those who will celebrate us in every way. Life will begin to mirror our self-acceptance, inner power and grace creating a ripple-effect out into the world. As we begin to show up for ourselves, we will be an inspiration for others to do the same.
HOW EMPOWERMENT SHOWS UP
• Tackling the growing piles of paperwork on your desk and paying bills with gratitude
• Smiling at your own reflection every time you find yourself in front of a mirror - focusing on wrinkles or re-growth doesn't count – look for the light in your eyes
• Listening to your body and taking care of it through movement, pleasure, nourishment and anything else it requires
• Proudly sharing our wildly different and amazing traits and preferences with the world
• Learning to check in with ourselves to see what feels right for us and where we may need to make adjustments.
• Having a strong list of non-negotiables and sticking to them
• Allow for quiet reflection so that you can receive insights and awareness from your Spirit and the Universe
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
Making the choice to examine our beliefs, values and what we know is true for us, is the first step to self-empowerment. When we make a claim that we matter and have every right to be heard, respected and valued, life will support us in so many ways. Unexpected phone calls to uplift us, connections with people who “get” us and what we are striving for, the right book or message at just the right time to keep us focused on our path. We will begin to uncover and unlock a reservoir of inner power and self-esteem.
A powerful journey begins to unfold that unleashes who we really are, defining our very core at the deepest levels, bringing clarity and a sense of inner knowing like nothing else can. When we begin to acknowledge that we have a voice, hopes and dreams that are ready to spill out into the world, we align with our greatest truth, our soul’s message and the gift we bring to everyone around us. We begin to Roar, perhaps only inside at first, for ourselves, for those who came before us and those yet to come.
Are you your own worst critic? Does your mind go over weaknesses or mistakes you made again and again? Do setbacks or criticism stop you in your tracks? Do you have a hard time saying no? Does asking for what you need make you feel guilty?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time for a self-love tune-up!
Practicing self-love is an integral part of your intuition. When you feel good about yourself, approve of who you are and the choices you are making, your intuitive channels are clear. You can easily hear the whispers of your soul, moving you in the direction toward your heart’s desires. On the other side, if you don’t approve of yourself, your ego (or Critter Mind as I like to call it) will start to chirp and add to your story, reminding you of all your past mistakes and shortcomings.
I grew up in a house where both my parents would say, “What’s wrong with you?” anytime my sisters or I made a mistake. I learned that making mistakes was not a good thing and began to disconnect from my intuition and the world around me. Disapproving of myself became my self-talk and my self-assurance began to fade. It was like being stuck in a cage of my own making. And, trust me, you don’t want that!
Self-assurance and self-love involve making a choice to value and approve of yourself, your choices and your life - no matter what. From my experiences growing up, I began to focus more on my perceived weaknesses rather than my own strengths. I had a belief that I needed to be perfect to be loved and accepted and nothing could be further from the truth. No one is perfect and once I removed that block, I began to focus on what was going right in my world and was able to reframe the stories in my mind to support my self-acceptance, love and happiness.
When you learn to celebrate who you are and the life you’re living, you realize that you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone or defend your choices. You know that when things don’t go according to play, there is always something to learn and you get to choose again. Your intuition is quick to show you the fastest way to make your dreams a reality, show you how to forgive yourself and others and most importantly, laugh at yourself!
By loving and approving of YOU, you are fully awake and fully connected to the world around you in a way that lights you up. And, when you make the choice to focus on your strengths, your intuition will guide you every time.
3 Steps for More Self-Love
Self-assurance involves celebrating your strengths and achievements. I invite you to make a LONG list of all the things you’ve ever done that make you proud. Every win, every wonderful thing you can thing of. How you showed up when you wanted to quit, how you make sure your kids, family or friends always have a shoulder to lean on. How do you make people feel? Do you like to make sure everyone feels included? Are you great at managing your money or time? Pay close attention to the last 2 years and really notice all the amazing strengths you have and all of the wonderful things you’ve accomplished, no matter how small! Read this list for the next 3 weeks and continue to celebrate YOU!
Take Charge of Your Mind!
I invite you to become a witness of your thoughts. Learn to just acknowledge them without judgement. You may notice you say certain things over and over all day and this is creating your reality. When you catch yourself saying, or thinking, something negative, reframe it into something you want to be true for you. Our minds cannot tell between a thought that is real and one that is not. So, I encourage you to only think and speak words and ideas that you would like to have in your world. A few years ago, I caught myself saying, “I’m so tired” and realized I repeated this to myself countless times a day. And, guess what? I was tired! So, I began to reframe with, “I’m feeling more and more energized every day.” And, pretty soon, that became my new reality.
Find ways to fill your mind with goodness – prayer, reading inspirational books or messages, uplifting music, have a dialog with the universe through Oracle Cards, mantras and any way that directs your thoughts in a powerful way.
This is my go-to for stopping the critter mind and strengthening your intuition. If your mind is really busy, you can start with guided mediations to begin and then move onto relaxing music and even breath work. When we focus on our breath, our body and mind instantly begin to relax so a wonderful practice is to breathe in for the count of 8, hold for the count of 8, and release for the count of 8. Giving yourself even 5 minutes a day to slow down your mind and invite your intuition in, will have a profound impact on your self-assurance!
And, please share your thoughts on self-assurance! I’d love to hear what you’re most proud of - remember we’re all connected and learning from one another. And, I’d also like to invite you to let me know if there is a subject you’d like me to write about, as I’d love to write something meaningful for you.
Looking at each card, take a deep breath in and exhale. Do this 3 times and welcome the nurturing energies into your heart.
Do you make a conscious choice to be happy? Or, do the outer experiences, energies and thought forms pull you from your joy? This card is a beautiful reminder that we have done so much inner work and now is time for us to experience joy and happiness on all levels. Give yourself permission to feel joy and allow your spirit to play! Sometimes we can get caught up in the mundane day-to-day obligations and responsibilities, and loose sight of our need to celebrate life in any way we can. I invite you to think of ways you can have more fun this month - new tunes, ice cream by the river, anticipating warmer weather, planning a trip... enjoy the lighter energies this month!
Sometimes it can seem like we aren't making any progress or seeing our heart's desires come to life. Now is a time to look at things with a different perspective. As my guides remind me - "Be mindful of how you tell the story, because you'll get to be right." I would find myself hanging onto an old story and in doing so, would prevent the universe from gifting me with the energies, resources or anything else that might assist my journey.
It's okay to set something aside until more information is ready. When I find myself at a crossroads, where nothing seems to be working, I'll give myself permission to leave it for a while and I'll ask my angels and guides to show me a new possibility. Just like watching a cake bake, our impatience (ego) won't make it bake faster! The same goes for our dreams and soul growth. Give yourself time to regroup.
I love the energy of this card! By slowing down and taking notice of how things ARE working out for you, you will align with more synchronicities and good fortune. By staying focused on what is working - seeing it done, feeling into the energy of it complete, trusting that your prayers will be answered, the universe can quickly move in and bring you that special person, that new opportunity or a new insight to fill your heart with love. Remember, you are co-creating with life and when you align with universal energies through gratitude, you will witness more and more magic. Your angels and guides are just waiting to shower you with love, possibilities and all things joyful!
From the Wisdom of the Oracle Deck - one of my favourite decks!
Question: I recently had to put my beloved dog down. She was very sick, and her health was deteriorating daily. Is she on the other side? Does she know I miss her? Is she doing okay now? Will I see her again?
Answer: I believe animals do have souls and are very eager to communicate with us once they cross over. In fact, for every beloved pet that I have channeled, they express gratitude to their humans for loving them and caring for them, and sometimes, for letting them go.
In one reading, my client recently loss her horse and was missing him terribly. I’ll never forget seeing this majestic, black horse appear beside my client. He was nibbling on the collar of her jacket and tapping his left foot. When I relayed this to her, she cried knowing he was with her and that he was okay on the other side. She found him one morning on the ground in the barn and was terribly sad that she didn’t get to say goodbye. He just kept nibbling on her jacket until finally she laughed, and it was like a huge weight had been lifted. Before he went back to the other side, he said it was time for her to get a new horse.
I see the beloved pets at their most happy time in life. They show themselves to me running and playing and being silly. I’ve communicated with dogs, cats, birds and even an iguana named Lizzie. I’ve seen poodles wearing sweaters and pugs chasing birds. I once channelled a lovebird with the sweetest song. There was even a Doberman Pinscher who was one of the most serious spirits I’ve communicated with to this day.
When my beloved little dog Jessie crossed over, I felt such a heaviness in my heart. On his last day, he lost the use of his back legs. A few weeks after he passed, I was standing at the kitchen sink when I caught this flash in the backyard and looked to see him running and running and running. My heart was overflowing with love for my sweetheart and it gave me such comfort, even as a medium, to know he was okay.
The animals who come through bring their personality along with their loyalty and love for their humans. And, they most want us to be happy as well, to honour the time we had with them and remember them as happy and healthy and always with us.
The love from our pets lives on and I believe we will meet again.
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Do you ever experience something and immediately think of your loved one? Maybe you smell lilacs or old spice cologne. Perhaps you wake up and you can still feel your loved one in the room with you? Or, you hear their favorite song on the radio and your heart fills with love and memories of time you spent with your loved one? These are all signs and gifts that your loved one is sending you.
Here are 7 signs that your loved ones may be sending you…
Have you ever found a feather in your home or space and it just seemed to appear out of nowhere? I remember going for a hike and when I got back to the car, finding the most beautiful white feather sitting on my seat. Feathers are a beautiful reminder that your loved one is near. You can even ask your loved ones to leave feathers for you and then when they do, and they will, feel the connection with them.
My grandfather will leave dimes for me to find and I so enjoy this gift! I’ll find them on the floor, in my car, on the sidewalk, again, seemingly out of nowhere. One day I found 7! I laughed and looked up to the heavens to thank him each and every time. When I find dimes, I know it is my grandfather’s way of reminding me of my value and to focus on what makes me happy.
When I was just starting to give professional readings, I would smell cigarette smoke in the strangest places. I could be in a coffee shop where there was no smoking allowed, and I would catch a whiff. Once, when I was home alone, I thought for sure someone was smoking! While on a walk, I smelled cigarette smoke and a picture flashed in my mind of an older couple. After digging through old family albums, I found the picture I saw in my mind and it was my grandfather, who was smoking in the picture. Loved ones can communicate with cigarette smoke, the smell of fresh baking, perfume or even flowers.
Butterflies, dragonflies or hummingbirds
I’ve had the pleasure of reading for clients who eagerly share with me how their loved ones bring insects and birds into their experience. One client would see hummingbirds at her kitchen window each morning. She lived on an acreage for many years and after her mom crossed over, they became a daily occurrence. She and her mom would have tea and visit each week and she believes in her heart that they still do!
Soon after my client’s father passed away, she began to hear the father and daughter song from her wedding. She heard the song while shopping for groceries, when she was driving in the car, and, she even overheard a man singing the song while filling her car with gas. Each time she heard the song, it brought her back to that day and that special time with her father. What a beautiful gift.
When we are asleep, our conscious mind is at rest and it’s much easier for our loved ones to communicate with us. You can even ask your loved ones to visit you in your dreams and with repetition, you will begin to remember your visits or any messages they bring to you. After our little dog Jessie passed, I can remember waking in the middle night and it felt like he was lying right beside me.
Orbs in Photos
If you happen to see orbs in pictures, this is a sure sign that loved ones are with you. After my daughter’s fifth birthday, I was looking through the photos and it looked like a snow storm of white, orbs floating around the girls at the party. I encourage you to take a look at your pictures and see where your loved ones have joined the photo fun.
These are just a few of the many ways our loved ones leave signs and gifts to let us know they are with us. If you are curious about a recurring sign, ask your loved one to show you again so you can know it’s from them. Get ready for fun and magical surprises when you do!
This seems to be a big area of change for a lot of people recently. When we take a close look at the people in our world, are we willing to see them for who they are? Are we willing to see those who are rooting for our success and those who are inviting us into drama/trauma?
If you’d had readings with me, you’ve probably heard me say, “Show it to me so I don’t miss it,” to my guides and angels. They really stepped up their game this week! I had not one Bucket Driller, but two.
How did this happen?
How did I miss the signs?
I did some digging and found that I am a Bucket Filler through and through, I am rooting for your success and then some. I also found that it’s very important for me to surround myself with other Bucket Fillers.
The catch is, that I knew they were both Bucket Drillers and I chose to stay in contact with them. It really was just a matter of time before things had to change. In creating and having my best life, I have also made the demand to only have people in my world who will root for my success, just as I would for them. People who are honest and will speak from their heart, not gossip about me or wear a passive/aggressive crown with me. I’m learning that what people say and what they do are different and that the energy never lies.
I really looked at the one relationship and it became clear that we were on different pages completely.
If I didn’t see things her way, I was wrong. If I shared something she wouldn’t choose, I was wrong. I left feeling like my energy was leaking and then I realized she was a Bucket Driller – she would poke holes in my bucket as a way of making herself right.
I encourage you to fill your bucket and take inventory of anyone, or anything, that could be a bucket driller.
If you're like me, you would rather have the awareness ahead of time so you can course correct or prepare for what's up ahead. I find Moon energies are no different and wanted to share this info with you for tomorrow, January 31st. Here is some amazing info by Melissa Corter - Enjoy!
January 31st 2018 Blue Moon, Super Moon, & Total Lunar Eclipse
One of the most powerful moons energetically in all of 2018 shines upon us on January 31st. We will encounter a rare and glorious cosmic adventure: a Blue moon, Super moon, and total Lunar Eclipse, a rare event for all to occur at once!
A Blue Moon is an additional Full Moon occurring in a single month or season when there has already been one Full Moon. It is not blue or a different color, it is just the name given the “extra” moon of this time.
A Super Moon is either a Full Moon or a New Moon appearing larger because of the distance it is on its orbit in relation to the earth. A Super Moon is a new or Full moon which occurs with the moon at or near (within 90% of) its closest approach to earth in a given orbit (perigee). Basically, earth, moon and sun are all in a line, with moon in its nearest approach to earth.
Have you been feeling ready to cleanse or purge since before the holiday season? It could be due to the energy of the eclipse since many people intuitively are tuning in to this potent energy for up to 90 days’ prior. For some, this enhanced energy can feel wonky to the nervous system; if so, you can transmute it into creative power.
Lunar eclipses occur only during a Full Moon when the moon passes behind the earth into the earth’s shadow and the moon, sun, and earth are completely aligned. During a lunar eclipse, Earth’s shadow blocks the sun’s light, which otherwise reflects off the moon. A Lunar eclipse can last for hours whereas a solar eclipse is usually completed within moments.
There are three types of eclipses, total, partial and penumbral — with the most dramatic being a total lunar eclipse, in which Earth’s shadow completely covers the moon.
“The moon had been observing the earth close-up longer than anyone. It must have witnessed all of the phenomena occurring – and all of the acts carried out – on this earth. But the moon remained silent; it told no stories. All it did was embrace the heavy past with a cool, measured detachment. On the moon there was neither air nor wind. Its vacuum was perfect for preserving memories unscathed. No one could unlock the heart of the moon.”
A total eclipse is believed to energetically have an effect on us anywhere from the next 6 months up to a full year. The type of impact you receive is determined by your personal sign in your astrology chart.
Since this is a lunar eclipse, we focus on release, letting go, and witnessing our manifestations. What are you really ready to release? It is in your favor to choose something BIG because we are dealing with BIG energy and support during this time.
Blue Moon + Total Lunar Eclipse + Super Moon = Potent Spiritual Transformation … if you are open and willing to receive it. Consider it a complete reset of the subconscious mind, a beautiful opportunity to start over in harmony with the desire of your individual soul calling.
Eclipses stir things up, and the things that surface from this are usually out of harmony with your intentions, desires, or goals. This provides an opportunity for you to shift, heal, cleanse, clear, and learn from them.
Tip for this Lunar Eclipse:
* Eclipses are not the best times for making important decisions, like Mercury retrograde, it is a time to reflect, let go, and clear out … not necessarily to start something brand new.
* Ask your spirit for guidance or assistance. There is a gift in this for you, consider asking the following: where are you ready to develop spiritually? What is ready for healing? How can you awaken to the intuitive, emotional, and deep feeling part of you?
* This is a wonderful time to discover, access, and align with your true power.
You have a magical & mystical gateway of opportunity available during this Lunar Eclipse. Harness the energy it contains to help you heal in an area of your life where you may have struggled, or even felt was a lost cause, all is possible, and this is the time to believe and watch the magic unfold.
Consider the doorway into your subconscious mind wide open; ready to be reprogrammed by you. This eclipse can provide insight into how you may respond emotionally to life for a six month to one-year period of time following the eclipse.
This mystical portal of lunar energy has enormous blessings to bestow upon you, prepare to receive them, with open arms, and open heart. It can also direct you into deep pockets of memory, ancient insights, and healing within your subconscious mind. Let yourself wander freely into the experience; you will be pleasantly surprised with the gems spirit has hidden in this cosmic pilgrimage.
If you have any questions or would like assistance to make the most of these energies, please let me know!
Do you ever feel like you’re banging your head against the wall?
I know I sure do at times!
In a class I recently attended, I asked how to move beyond this. How to create the way I’d like to. The answer kind of rocked my world. There are a few parts to it…
You see, when we choose something in our lives, we are choosing more, less than or the same.
Ultimately, when we choose something, we will begin to do what is required to make it happen or we choose to escape. In choosing to escape, we can come up all sorts of justifications, that aren’t even real, as to why we can’t have something, like not having the money, or the time or the resources.
The instructor then shared with me, “We are the only ones who can work against us.”
Shit. Mind blown.
Hence, banging our heads against the wall. When we pick something that is not actually in alignment with what we really, really want, we can drive ourselves nuts trying to make it work. Instead, we can stop and ask the Universe for directions and be willing to change course completely or make slight adjustments along the way.
When we are willing to ask for more, we can create more. And, not asking from a place of what we think might be good for us, but really getting clear on what does work for us and what we would really like to have and choosing from this place.
He added, “Once we learn to deal with the Universe in a creative, expansive way, we will see more possibilities and will choose what works for us, always creating more.”
I used to think if I had all my ducks in a row, took another class, had more experience, THEN I could choose something, when in fact, the Universe works the opposite…
When we CHOOSE something, even if we have no idea how it will work out, the Universe gets busy showing us the way, providing the next steps and helping us move toward making our choices a reality.
The Universe not only has our back, the Universe sees us the way we see ourselves. Do you see yourself as magical? Do you see yourself as the creator and source of your happiness, joy and abundance?
Food for thought with your choosing and creating…
· Are you willing to choosing what works for you?
· Are you willing to asking for greater?
· Once you choose, are you creating or escaping?
· Are you willing to ask the Universe to show you a different way?
What incredible, magical world are you now willing to choose and ask for?
Sending sparkles your way!
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Do you ever have days where your energy just feels sluggish, like you’re sinking in quicksand, and before you know it your entire world feels “stuck”… for no apparent reason? It’s like no amount of coffee can kick-start your awesomeness?
When this happened to me, I used to think it was Mercury Retrograde, that time of the month, planetary alignments or a myriad of other things where everything just went sideways leaving me feeling overwhelmed, discouraged and not wanting to go outside.
Often, I would envision crawling back into bed, for an undetermined amount of time, and not leaving until the storm passed by!
But, life doesn’t stop, kids need you, your business needs you and countless other things that demand your attention and time need you.
When I feel stuck energetically it’s often the result of:
• Something I haven’t acknowledged
• Family drama
• Allowing myself to be distracted or pulled off course
• Beating myself up for forgetting something or messing up
• Hidden Resentments
• Energetically entangled (when people energetically, often unknowingly, hook into our energy and on some level we are allowing them to)
And most, if not all, of these choices we make are unconscious.
Let’s take energetic entanglement as an example…
You meet a friend for lunch and she’s going through a painful divorce. At the end of your time together, you feel drained, angry or frustrated, perfectly mirroring her energy. Chances are your friend has ‘hooked’ into your energy. Or, you may work in a busy office dealing with countless people, phone calls and clients each day. The same energetic entanglement can happen there.
I know for myself, running my own business, volunteering at my daughter's school and working with clients each week, there can be a great deal of energy floating around in my world.
Just to be clear, this energy isn’t coming from a bad place and there isn’t anyone trying to put a hex or spell on you… although some people CAN send toxic energy your way.
(Someone popped into your mind didn’t they?!)
In order to clear away all the energies that are not yours, that do not add value to your world, and come back to who you really are, it’s important to cleanse your energy daily. You may even feel guided to do this cleansing at different times throughout your day if things are more intense for you.
The following is a prayer that is going to clear your energy, ensuring that only your frequency is around you and will bring back your clarity to focus on what lights you up and help you make a conscious choice to not take on energies that are not yours.
Understand that we pick up so many thoughts, feelings and emotions that do not belong to us and I want to reassure you that you are not alone, we all pick up on the people and different energies around us. Utilizing this easy technique, you will feel the energy shift and start to discern each thought, feeling and emotion that doesn’t belong to you.
This technique is a must-do for me and I invite you to try it for yourself.
Repeat the following silently or out loud:
Dear Source (Universe, Creator, God)…
I ask that every thought, feeling, resentment, attachment, judgement, conclusion and anything else I haven’t mentioned that is not mine, that is not 100% Divine in nature, be cleared and released from my energy in all ways, spaces, time and realities with ease and grace.
Please fill every cell, molecule and space in between with your divine light and love. As I breathe in this light and love, I begin to emit this energy to the world around me. I choose to no longer engage in any attachment that does not bring me into my highest potential of consciousness and possibilities. My energy now glows at the highest vibration of love, gratitude and abundance.
Thank you, it is done, Amen.
This is an amazing tool to use as soon as you can’t really get a handle on why your sense of flow and accomplishment has diminished. With practice you'll get to a place where you'll instantly know if something isn't yours and you'll be able to energetically - kick it out - and get on with your amazing life.
I invite you to practice this technique every day for 7 days and see what happens for you!
Sending so much love,
Shauna Marie Chandler
Reiki Master/Teacher, Angel Readings, Sacred Geometry
Located in beautiful Calgary, Alberta, Canada.
We look forward to seeing you soon!
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