A client named Rose came to see me in hopes of connecting with her recently deceased grandmother. During her reading, her grandmother brought up a very private moment that no one could possibly know about. About a week before she came to see me, Rose was getting ready for some “sexy time” with her husband when her negligee brushed against a lit candle and caught on fire. She ran into the kitchen to splash water on her nightie and that was where her grandmother saw her.
When I brought this up, Rose screamed, covered her face and started laughing. She then got very serious and asked me, “Did my grandmother watch us shagging?” With a horrified looked on her face, I reassured her that grandma did not. In fact, grandma was adamant that she would not intrude in that way and left immediately.
“Oh, thank God! Can you imagine if they all sat around eating popcorn while we got busy?” said Rose.
We then laughed and laughed some more.
After Rose left, I began to wonder if the deceased do in fact respect our privacy? Are they with us when we shower? Do they watch us getting dressed? Are they hanging 10 at the nudist beaches? What exactly do they see? Are there universal privacy laws in place?
First, let me explain how it works after you leave the physical world. After a period of acclimation, getting used to not having a body, perhaps a reunion with loved ones already in the afterlife or maybe even a life review to see how your soul experienced life on Earth, you’re faced with different possibilities. You can choose to fully complete your last incarnation by reincarnating into a new life and having the slate cleared so to speak, or you can choose to stay in the afterlife, to watch over your loved ones, help guide them or just to watch your grandkids grow up. Think of it as hovering, you can still tune into what’s going on here on Earth, but it’s not your main focus. You can connect with your loved ones, you can mess with the family dog or flicker some lights, while your soul continues to shift and expand in the afterlife. It’s like having a bird’s eye view on your entire family. You can still spend time with them, shower them with love and give them signs that you are near.
In addition to our crossed over loved ones, we also have guides and angels watching over us. We are never really alone. Our guides and angels help us work through emotionally challenging times, guiding and supporting us. And, they haven’t been in a physical body, so sex doesn’t mean anything to them. Our guides and angels do not judge us, they help us navigate our lives, especially during difficult times. When I read for clients who are depressed, or even suicidal, they are surrounded by numerous angels. Angels and guides have no point of view when it comes to what we choose to do during our time here on Earth. They will remind us, or give us a nudge, if we get off track from our dreams and aspirations, so we can live a meaningful and joy filled life.
Now, if the idea of a crossed over loved one watching you in private – scarfing down ice cream when you’re on a diet, using your sleeve to wipe your nose (gross, Shauna!) yelling at the dog, your kids or your spouse, makes you a little uncomfortable, I invite you to look at that. First, your loved ones are not judging you. They remember everything about being in a physical body with good days and not so good days. Second, I invite you to approve of everything you do, how you do it, why you do it, and not worry so much about what other people, or spirits, may think about you or your choices. If you saw 2 elk mating in the wild, would you judge them or would you excuse yourself and go on about your day?
From my experience as a medium, the deceased really don’t care what we do in the privacy of our own home. If you’ll recall, they were human once too, and they know all about sex, with a partner, alone, with several partners and it’s really not a big deal to them. They only want us to live our best life. Now, if you like to vacuum in the nude and grandma wants to pop in to say hello, chances are she may see a little more than she bargained for and will most likely come back another time, most likely. 😉
Shauna Chandler is a Spiritual Medium, Teacher and Guide, a mind-body science enthusiast, an avid women’s empowerment advocate, and a loyal coffee and chocolate lover. Her passion is sharing insights and inspiration, assisting clients with clearing anything holding them back, creating room for magical possibilities to take root and grow. Shauna lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and daughter.
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