Love Your Body
When you love the skin you’re in, your magnetism goes through the roof and your sex life will soar. So many women, and men too, get caught on the when-this-happens-I’ll-feel-better wagon and what ends up happening is they don’t actually accept and love themselves now, in the present moment. And, the present moment is where the magic unfolds. It’s where you fully connect with another person, get butterflies in your stomach and feel excitement build inside. To fully embrace your body, you need to love, accept and nurture every part of you, even those parts you’d like to change. When you fully embrace everything you have to offer, you ignite your inner passion. Focus on what you love about your body: silky skin, nice round assets, a beautiful smile, an hourglass figure, long legs…
Free Your Mind
It’s so important to calm our mind and learn to settle down and unwind so that we can release all the inner chatter that keeps our brain churning and instead slip into sensual pleasures and relaxation. One way to do this is to imagine that you are actually disconnecting from your day, work, your lists, household obligations, kids… and visualize connecting into your sensuality. You could also put some music on (Barry White is a huge favourite), light some candles or draw a bath. One of my clients has a ritual with her husband – one of them will text the other their code word for sexy time – she finishes up work, stops to pick up wine on her way home and gets her mind, and other parts of her, revved up, creating room for sexual pleasure, fun and whatever else shows up.
Connect to Your Sensuous Energy
Movement connects us into our passionate energy so quickly. The blood is pumping, our heart is beating faster and we feel alive, we feel connected with our bodies and ready to take on the world. Taking part in activities that change how you typically carry yourself can make you feel more confident in the bedroom, increase your arousal and even expand your orgasms. Bet you just thought of when you last worked out, I know I sure did! Learn to be open and expansive with your body: yoga, dance lessons, or even time at the gym will help you get more grounded, have a new appreciation for your body and feel more vibrant and alive!
Spend Time Together – without looking at cellphones
In the busy, fast-paced world that we live in, it’s easy to let date nights slide until they are non-existent. One way to combat this is to set at least one day every week to connect with your lover: going for a walk and then out for dinner, grabbing a coffee or going to a movie, grabbing some assets… When you make time to spend together, you feel more in sync with your partner, increasing your intimacy factor which leads to more sexual satisfaction. If you’re single, date yourself and get in touch with YOU. When you focus on being the juiciest, most amazing YOU, your magnetism will attract those who agree.
I recently read an article titled Married Sex and in it the author explained that most people are just too tired to make the extra effort to have a mind-blowing experience settling for a 30 second blur of hot breathing. Sure, when you’ve been with a partner for a while, it’s easy to forego foreplay and head straight for the goods – quickies are fun don’t get me wrong. However, when you forego foreplay more often than not, you miss out on more fun, a deeper connection and delicious anticipation that builds when you take the time to fool around. Remember when you first met and go back to the basics and get curious about each other again: kissing, cuddling, caressing, light massage - basically do everything without “doing the deed” and enjoy exploring each other.
I have helped hundreds clients and couples transform their intimacy levels from non-existent or barely there to revved up infernos by answering all their sexuality questions and solving their most intimate sexual dilemmas. Ultimately, inspiring my clients — whether single or coupled — to become more confident and self-empowered in and out of the bedroom.
Shauna Marie Chandler
Reiki Master/Teacher, Angel Readings, Sacred Geometry